"What I’m trying to get at here is that people change. But, not fundamentally. Who are you are your core (i.e. your values) don’t change much (unless you have a transformational, once-in-a-lifetime experience). If you’re a selfish jerk when you’re broke, you’re probably going to be a selfish jerk when you’re rich.
What does change is your exterior identity, the thing that the outside world sees most.
Maybe that’s why its hard to let go of past identities and the stuff that goes along with it. We spend months, years, even decades carefully cultivating exterior facades to shape how we perceive ourselves and how we want others to perceive us.
So, when we no longer have that same facade we’ve spent so long developing (because of a career change, family shift etc), it can be incredibly painful. In these instances, we are literally losing a piece of ourselves. And that’s obviously going to hurt.
But, it also creates an opportunity for growth. I know it sounds terribly cliche, but you can’t fully enjoy the present moment if you’re living a past that may never be a reality again.
While painful in the moment, once you are able to let go of an identity that isn’t actually who you are anymore, you may find it’s easier to deal with that loss because you are no longer trapped by it.
Remember, you don’t owe anything to old parts of your life. And, you don’t have to be who were you yesterday."
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